How to Trust Your Vision, Even When Others Don’t
When I made the decision to blog about living life against the status quo, I knew I would receive some feedback that would be less than positive. In fact, I had my fair share of warnings. Every blogger that writes about lifestyle design has said that when you try to encourage people to think outside the box, some people will freak out. Then they will speak out. And sometimes what they have to say will be pretty nasty.
Well, this weekend I received some criticism about this blog that wasn’t nasty, but it still took me by surprise. One of my friends (who is a great, delightful person) said she thought the pace of my writing is slow, and that the blog reads more like a letter than a blog. I’m always open to feedback, so I took her comments in stride. In fact, I’m glad she said what she did.
Because now I get to write this post about the three things I think you should remember when people start questioning your vision. *Drum roll, please*
1. When you keep a laser-like focus on your vision everything else will fall away.
So many people spend every day worrying about what others think of them. They fear speaking their mind, or making any moves because they are terrified about what the masses will say. But you know what? Life is short, so why waste your time trying to mold yourself to be someone you are not?
Remembering who you are trying to reach will always keep you focused and centered. You can’t be everything to everybody. And that is the way that it should be. The Fab Life Project isn’t for everyone. It’s really not for practical people. Or even people who totally risk averse. It’s really not for people who believe that they CAN’T. It’s for the people who question if they CAN. Big difference.
2. When people try to box you in (and they will) RUN!
Doing something unconventional is scary. Whether that be quitting your job because you never did like it anyway, or starting a new business venture, branching out into the unknown is a little terrifying. And the funny thing about this is, not only are YOU scared, your notions of being big and bold start scaring other people!
Folks freak out when they see others wanting to try something new. I believe this is because we have been so programmed to believe something is wrong with us if we don’t want to fit into the traditional, limited definition of success. And most of the time their reaction will be to try to find someway to put you back in the box, cage, or cube.
The comments my friend made, while well intended, were stifling. But I received her comments with glee. Why? Because anytime someone tells you that your project doesn’t look like the typical something you expect to see, you are doing something right. Rock on!
3. Finally, and most important, remember YOU define your own rules.
The number one reason I created this blog is because I want to encourage people who don’t believe in living a mediocre existence to break through convention to get to their true self.
I reminded myself of this after I spoke to my friend because I decided to veto her opinion. Why?
Well, I think the beauty of a blog is that it can be anything you want it to be. Blogs take on so many shapes and forms (kind of like people) that it is hard to define exactly what a blog should sound like. This applies to pretty much any project with the exception of filling out your tax forms.
Don’t let anyone trick you into thinking there are “set rules” you should follow. Just because something has always been done in a traditional way, does not make it automatically right. The fabulous thing about your project might be the way you do everything WRONG, according to the powers that like to spit modern “wisdom”.
Next time you start a new project, or are redefining your vision, remember this: There are the kind of rules that keep us safe (look both ways before you cross the street), and then there are the rules that are just limitations set up by others. Learn to distinguish between the two. Then follow the path less taken, not the path of least resistance.
Tell me, have you ever had someone question your vision? How did you deal?
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