You Will Never “Get Over” Fear
“Why aren’t you taking your dreams seriously?”
This isn’t the question I am posing to you (although I will later), it is the question I asked myself this morning. It was followed by more questions:
“Why am I afraid to just leap? To just do it? To just try something? Anything?”
“Because I am afraid of being rejected,” I answered myself back.
Confession: Yes, sometimes I do talk to myself sometimes. Whatever. I bet you do it too.
Other more important confession: Even though I write frequently about getting past fear, I am sometimes paralyzed by it. And every time I push myself to get past it, to just leap, to just do something, it is an effing celebration.
Why? Because I get scared. I get so scared of asking for what I want; I get scared of people telling me “no” and thinking I am foolish; and I get scared of allowing myself to appear vulnerable.
Those are my deep fears. Those are the answers that creep out when I ask myself why I haven’t been taking my dreams seriously.
Fear is a bitch. And it’s not going anywhere. You have to learn to treat it like an annoying relative you can’t get rid of. You can bargain all you want, but if you want to get past it, you have to make the decision to “just do”.
In my experience, the secret to getting over fear is to realize you will never get over it. I will never get over the fear of being rejected. I may learn to tolerate it. I might find new and creative ways to deal with it, but at the core of my being, rejection scares the shit out of me.
And that is OK.
You will never completely stop being afraid of doing something, you just push yourself to do it anyway. And you keep doing that over and over. You do it every single time you decide to take your dreams seriously.
Yesterday, I celebrated my one-year blogoversary (Happy Birthday Fab Life Project!) In the one year that I have been writing publicly, I have gotten over fear exactly 76 times. I know this because WordPress tells me I have hit the “Publish” button 76 times to create content.
This means I have 76 pieces of proof that I am capable of pushing through fear. I never know how my posts will be received. Hell, I don’t even know if they will be read, but I do it. I do it, do it, do it, and do it again because I love it, and I have something to say that I think is of value.
So, cheers to the 77th time I am getting over fear and taking my dream of creating a Gen Y community, seriously.
Now, it’s that time when I flip the question over to you: why aren’t you taking your dreams seriously?
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