“Who said your career path has to be clear cut?” This guest post from Miss. Soloman, the voice behind TheDatingTruth.com, gives us some insight on her journey from being an employee at her her father’s business, to carving her path as an entrepreneur.
I worked for my family business for ten years.
When I reflect on that time, I realize how little freedom I felt. I could never abandon my family to work for “the man” or an organization. But I also felt like just another number, a pawn in a game I had little control over. My father was an entrepreneur, but I was just an employee.
I loved my work, but I hated my job. The way that I felt during those ten years, reminds me of a quote by Drew Carey: “Oh you hate your job, there’s a club for that. It’s called everyone; we meet at the bar.”
Although I wasn’t working for “the man,” my father was close enough. I wasn’t fulfilling what I thought was my destiny. And I surely wasn’t living my passion but who was, right?
One day my father decided to close the business.
My emotions were mixed. I was not going to be able to collect unemployment and I had bills to pay, but I was also free. I no longer had to drag myself, sometimes two hours late, into a building that I hated to do work for my father who I loved as a dad, but not as a boss.
Was I glad or was I devastated? What was I going to do? I didn’t have any savings. I didn’t have any assets. I had tried to buy a house once, but sadly had no proof of income to show to the bank. I was working everyday and it seemed to mean nothing. Sure, I made a few dollars here and there, but where was my life really going?
In the few years after my father closed our family business, I struggled to make ends meet. I jumped from one job to another, taking any work I could find just to pay my bills.
I landed my first full-time job at a Mercedes Benz car dealership, and by the third day, I realized it seemed like all of my coworkers were miserable. Everyone eagerly shared their woes with anyone that would listen. Talk about a new level of, ‘I hate my job!’
They were broke. They were pissed off; and that was on a good day. It seemed like being pleasant was a chore no one wanted to tackle.Every one gossiped, and threw each other under the proverbial bus. It was about a month in to the job when the novelty of a steady paycheck wore off.
I wasn’t exactly doing life-changing work, and there was nothing keeping me at my job except the fear of not having money. But, I didn’t have money anyway. No matter how hard I worked, my paycheck seemed to dissolve every two weeks. I spent my checks to feel like I was “living” but I knew I really wasn’t.
One day I just had enough. What was I going to work everyday for? I didn’t know, so I quit to figure it out.
I didn’t have an “Aha” moment or balls of steel; and in hindsight, my career plan was poorly drafted. But I knew I could do it. I was used to living off a few hundred dollars a month, anyway. I also knew I could go back to my hustling ways and take part-time work here and there, while working on my website.
Still, the decision wasn’t easy because at my age (late twenties) most of my friends are making salaries they can buy houses and support families with. While here I was living at home. But every time I tossed around the idea of quitting my job with my family and friends, they said, “Do it.”
The first day I woke up in the morning with nowhere to go is a moment I will never forget. It was the best feeling to know that I didn’t have to be anywhere.
I’ve come to the realization that my life plan isn’t going to look like other peoples.
But you know what? I’m okay with that.
About the Author: Miss Solomon is just your typical advice giving, social expert, dating coach, pick-up artist and know-it-all with a heart of gold. When she’s not writing, dating, meditating and watching Law and Order marathons she enjoys to sleep The Dating Truth™ is a site dedicated to removing the roadblocks that make dating difficult.