Do you ever wonder what might have happened if you had just done *insert semi-sorta life-changing decision here* instead of making the decision that you did?
Of course you do-you are human.
Everyday my Facebook newsfeed is filled with pictures people are posting of all of these “life affirming” quotes, but I wonder, why would people feel a need to post such things, if our world is not somehow altered and controlled by the things we regret?
I know, I know, we are all supposed to be big on living a life without regrets. We are supposed to go scale mountains, and pet baby tigers, and live free. I get it. I’ve heard it a thousand times.
But I think regret is real, and no matter how much people say, “Oh, I have no regrets,” that is total b.s.
I think you reach a point in your life (maybe at a certain age apparently) where you start to question the decisions you have made so far. You start to wonder what you life would have been like if you had just done “that” differently.
It could suck.
Or it could be the kick in the ass you need.
What if we look at regrets not as soul-sucking affirmations of our previous moments of stupidity, but as a signal that we are still longing for something?
What if we saw them not as a reminder of the time that has slipped by, but as a signal to evaluate the time that we have now?
What if they are reminders of things that you “still can do” or “things that you still want.” not “things you should have done?”
The theory with the quarterlife crisis is that it kicks off when you no longer feel in charge of your life and your decisions. You are moving on autopilot because your mind is so far removed from the process and the regret starts to sneak in.
And maybe that’s when the crisis officially starts. When you have to chose to define your life by the things you haven’t done, or gear up to fight to “start doing.”
Do you think it’s possible to find the positivity in regrets?
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