Tag: business

What To Do When You Don’t Feel Like Writing A Damn Thing


There will be those days when you look at your blog, and with a quickness, you shut that tab DOWN. You walk away from your computer, look at it sideways, and find recluse in whatever distracting task you can possibly get your hands on as quick as possible.

Yes, you’ve set goals. Yes, you feel as if your readers are virtually giving you the side eye, because the only thing jumping on your site these days is crickets, but you don’t care about any of that because dagnabbit, you just don’t feel like writing a damn thing.

I feel you my sisters (and brothers). There have been many times when I didn’t feel like writing. Didn’t even want to THINK about writing, and I’d be lying if I said I forced myself to do it anyway.  In most cases I didn’t.

But in the good name of all that is delightful, and the shit parade that is about to become a barrage of “New Years Resolution” themed-posts, I wanted you to be prepared.

Introducing, my tips for what to do when you don’t feel like writing a damn thing.

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The Art Of The Focused Hustle

Back in the day, people kept their side hustle a secret. In fact, the word “hustle”  seemed to be a bad word that was reserved for select groups of people (usually with a negative connotation). Now, everyone has a side gig.

Hustling has become the new black.

No doubt, the effed up economy had something to do with the hustle coming in vogue. Gone are the days when you could kick back and dream about your ultimate job while slaving away at your 9-5. Burning the midnight oil on your side gig has become the norm.

Now it is way more acceptable to:

1. Let people know you have a gig on the side (Everyone is a potential customer!)
2. End convo’s with your friend by saying, “Go on girl! Get your hustle on!”
3. Expect everyone to tell you they are a chef/massue/ writer/martial artist

The last point is what I want to hit on. We live in a slash culture. People are rambling off 5 or more things that they are doing, but unless your name is Diddy (which means you really have a ton of other people doing the heavy lifting for your anyways)  it is impossible for you to give all of your best time and effort to five different things.

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Defining life by who you are, not what you do

Last year I spent a lot of time going to networking events in the city. While some people avoid these organized soirees at all cost, I flocked to them because they often provided me with two amazing opportunities: a chance to meet new, cool people, and a chance to get  free food and drinks(hey, I was unemployed at the time).

When I went to my first networking event on a frosty February night last year, I did not really know what to expect. I brought the business cards I had gotten done at Staples, and wore what I thought was a pretty professional outfit, but none of this prepared me for being bombarded with the question of the evening: “What do you do?”

Now, I know this was a networking event, so obviously people were there to talk about work in some form, or fashion, but I was not expecting that this would be the first thing people asked me. I also never expected that when I meet new people anywhere, that this would be the leading question.

I’m sure this happens in other places, but in New York City, asking someone what they do (as in what type of job do they have), is just as common as asking a new acquaintance their name. Everyone wants to know how you spend the hours between 9 a.m. and 5 p.m.

When I was unemployed this question made me uneasy. I always knew it was coming, but I never knew quite how to answer it. Did I say I was looking for a job? Did I tell them what I had done in the past?  I didn’t want to use the “U” word. Last year, admitting you were unemployed (especially in NYC) was like telling someone you have bed bugs.  People were afraid that your misfortune would rub off on them.

Now, even though  I am working full-time, I still find this question (when mentioned very early in the conversation) unsettling.  It’s not that I have an aversion to talking about work-quite the opposite, actually I just have a problem with being defined by what I do, and losing the opportunity to share the things about me I know for sure.

Things like how much I love to read. Or that I believe dancing is the greatest form of energy. Maybe even sharing how much I still like to write, although I am interested in alternative storytelling forms.

These are the things I need to remember I know for sure at a time when my days are somewhat unstable, and I am questioning the career choices I’ve made thus-far.   For a second I might want to be reminded about who I am; not what I do.

Am I the only person who feels this way?