How To Find The Courage To Be Vulnerable (Plus A Semi-Sorta Love Letter)

I wanted to write a post about vulnerability today. It’s inspired by this great book that I just read called Daring Greatly by Brene Brown.

I first heard of Brene when I was perusing the TED site one day. Next she popped up on Oprah, still chatting about this vulnerability thing. I found out about her books and I put a hold on a copy of Daring Greatly  with my library.

I’m the 40th person to put in a request on one copy of the book.  Obviously I’m not the only person who’s ready to dare greatly by learning how I can be more vulnerable.

So, how can you be more vulnerable? The short answer is digging up the courage to do so.

That you have to figure out how to ignore the critics, become resilient , and get out there and fight your heart out.  The long, more complicated answer is that yes, courage is key, but you might have to wade through a bunch of your nasty life shit before you get there.

My next thought was how can I talk to you all about vulnerability without putting myself in a vulnerable position?  I attempted to write this post from a non-personal stance, but clearly that doesn’t work.  I’m going to dare greatly today. Hang with me.

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Last Night I Was Turned On

Last night I thought I was going to have to take off my pants in a room full of strangers.

My face flushed, and I giggled nervously as I tried to plot my escape.

This isn’t some kind of intro to a work of fiction, this was seriously my life yesterday.

I was sitting in the back of the room, so leaving  wouldn’t just be extremely noticeable, it wouldn’t be that easy. I’d have to climb over people to escape, people, who I assumed, wanted to see me drop trou.

I fidgeted nervously in my seat.  My eyes widened when the speaker started to talk about finding your “OM” orgasm, and how the person in the role of “Stroker” would learn the technique then practice it for 30 seconds.

I began to sweat.

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Starting From The Bottom (Plus An Announcement)

Starting Over with a New Direction
Everyone starts somewhere.

And usually the start is a bit bumpy, rough, and straight-up busted.

And we always hear that one day we will look back, laugh, and say dang, that was rough!

But we’ll be proud that we did it, pushed ourselves, made it happen, even if the manifestation doesn’t exactly look like the dream…yet.

So, I’m starting this new thing. An “insights/advice” channel on YouTube. I’ll be answering questions from you all about career stuff, life stuff, blogging, relationships, ect.

I frequently get questions from ya’ll and I’ve profiled a few in blog posts, but I love the idea of taking the show on the road to YouTube.

There’s only one thing holding me back: a smidgen of fear.

This will be putting myself out there in a way that I haven’t really done until now.

But eff fear.

I’m Amber J., and I’ll be taking your questions now.

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