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In This Moment

January 21st, is a weird day for me. Today, I am curled up with my phone, watching footage of thousands of women marching in New York and D.C.  in protest of the presidency of Donald Trump, and in solidarity with the idea of “justice for all”. Four years ago, I was purchasing my first ball gown. In a stroke of amazingly good luck, one of my friends had been given tickets to the Obama Inaugural Ball. Later that night, I would see Michelle and Barack for the first time, and I would dare to believe in magic. And seventeen years ago, in this moment, I was hours away from getting into a car with my mother for what would be the...

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To New York, With Love

Eight years ago, on January 7, 2009, I hopped on a one-way flight to New York City…. Actually, wait. Let me start the story somewhere else. Nine years ago I jumped on the stage to dance with the band at a bar/live music venue in the West Village. Maybe I was drunk, maybe I was excited because the band was playing the anthem of my hometown hero, Justin Timberlake, but I made my way to the front of the room, climbed on the stage, and showed a room full of tourists and New Yorkers, just how I bring sexy back. My friend, a pretty straight-laced Columbia student from Ohio, was horrified. I hadn’t prepared him for that. But, I felt liberated....

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Who Would You Be If You Could Unabashedly Slay 24/7?

Who would you be if there were no perceived limits, no expectations, no need for explanations, or no indications that you unleashing the truth of your personage would do anything but set you completely fucking free? That was what I asked myself Saturday night after watching Beyonce’s new video, “Formation” about five times because yes, you have to watch this video AT LEAST five times to even begin to unpack all of the layers that make up this song, this video, and this art piece. Playing on the Southern theme, I’ll liken it to that moment when you unpack that Sunday dinner plate that your Grandmama sent you home with. After all, of that sliding around in the car, it’s a...

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Setting Goals for 2016: What Made You Jealous In 2015?

  Happy New Year everyone! I’m back with what’s become my yearly tradition: admitting to the world wide web what made me jealous last year as my way of setting goals and planning what I want to achieve in the new year. I first started doing this on New Year’s Eve back in 2013. Let me tell you, 2013 was an epically shitty year that I was ready to leave behind! When I thought about what I wanted to accomplish in 2014, my mind kept drifting to all of the experiences that my friends, associates, and cool peeps in my network had that made me say, “Damn! I want to do that too!” When I set out to write a new post for 2014,...

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Here’s How To Get Motivated

      I'm gonna be real: The standard advice for picking back up with your blog after not blogging for a long time is to not point out the obvious. You are supposed to write as if you never stopped, and ignore the glaring hole in your archives. Well, I'm not going to do that. I haven't written a dang thing in a very long time, and I want to talk about why. In a fit of starts and stops, I've broached this topic before in detail here, here, and here.  Each time I think I’ve chipped away a bit at the source of my silence, but I've never just said: “Dude, I haven’t written because I have not motivated myself to do so. Yes, I...

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