I’m gonna be real:
The standard advice for picking back up with your blog after not blogging for a long time is to not point out the obvious. You are supposed to write as if you never stopped, and ignore the glaring hole in your archives.
Well, I’m not going to do that. I haven’t written a dang thing in a very long time, and I want to talk about why.
In a fit of starts and stops, I’ve broached this topic before in detail here, here, and here. Each time I think I’ve chipped away a bit at the source of my silence, but I’ve never just said: “Dude, I haven’t written because I have not motivated myself to do so.
Yes, I am busy. Between my job, my passion, and all the other things I seem to do in between, it doesn’t leave me with much free time, but it’s not the reason.
You might understand that feeling. It’s the angst that comes with knowing you need, want to do something and not doing it.
It’s writing down ideas that you think about constantly but never exploring them.
It’s eating one more donut when you know you don’t need to or want to.
And at the most basic level it’s turning your alarm clock off, choosing to sleep fitfully for another hour rather than get up and do what you need to do to push you forward.
Emphasis on fitfully because don’t even try to tell me that “extra” sleep is comfortable. You can’t get peace of mind when you are too busy mentally beating yourself up for not being strong enough.
Some will call is strength, focus, or even aptitude, but I call it self motivation.
It’s easier to make a change when someone else is pushing you, guilting you, or shaming you into it, right?
But to motivate yourself? To push yourself to take one more step when you just want to sit the fuck down?
Baby, that’s hard.
And that is what I’ve grappled with. Not motivating myself to write even though at times it feels as if all the words and ideas I want to express are choking me.
So what can we do? How can you motivate yourself to keep moving on those days when you just don’t want to?
A ha! I’ll tell you exactly what got me to where I am right now: typing this up for you all.
Seek Inspiration Daily
Seriously. I am not kidding.
I sought out the motivation. I actively looked for it. I went hunting, if you will, and here are the ideas I’m going to pass on to you all.
Motivation and inspiration are like food. You need it in order to keep your mind operating at it’s max level. And just like food, you can make some bad motivating choices (comparing yourself to other people, faking yourself out on Facebook thinking that you are looking for that one-off inspirational graphic when what you are really doing is procrastinating) or you can make healthy choices that will keep you pumped up throughout the day. That can be a song, a video, blog posts, the Bible, whatever it is that gets you in the right mindset to go forth and rock it.
Just remember that “seeking” is the key idea here. You can’t sit around and wait to get motivated. You have to actively seek out inspiration that applies to what you want to focus on.
Speaking of which…
In this post I won’t jump ahead to eliminating distractions (although that is the next step), we’re going to talk about recognizing them first.
You guys, we have soooooo many things to distract us these days, and honestly? A lot of it is crap that we don’t need, and things we are using to actively distract ourselves from:
- pondering how much we want to move forward with our goals
- numb the pain of doing jack diddle squat about our goals.
There are only two categories of distractions….which one are you falling in right now?
Stop Saying “I’m Busy”
Yo, I am the QUEEN of this. Let me tell it, I am always busy. And while yes, I do spend a lot of time doing necessary, yet unhelpful things that take up time (riding the subway), what’s to stop me from writing on the train?
The truth is, if you want it, you will figure out a way to get it, do it, make it, create, etc. You will carve out a moment, you will cut out the distractions, you will seek the motivation.
If you can’t make the time to be awesome, then what kind of life are you trying to lead?
I firmly believe that anyone can do this. The first step is to be real with yourself, and call out your own bullshit.
It’s good to be back.