You are replaceable.
I mean this in the very best way possible.
When you realize just how replaceable you really are, it will be liberating. It will free your mind to think of ways to create epic coolness that makes you happy. The kind of stuff you can’t create in a relationship (work or otherwise) that should have ended a long, long, time ago.
Let’s imagine that you work as a receptionist for a company that stocks furniture in offices. You arrive every morning at nine, make sure there is plenty of milk in the kitchen, then proceed to waste the rest of your day trying to make it look like you are “busy”.
You hate this job.
Your talents have nothing to do with ordering milk, but you have been in this position for months (or years!) because you are telling yourself one of the following things:
- “Oh, I need to stay at least a year to get experience.”
- ” I’m so grateful my boss gave me a chance.”
- “What will my parents think if I quit?”
- “Shouldn’t I be grateful that I have a job?”
Let’s be real. You tell yourself all of these things to keep from facing the ugly truth: you care about what others think of you. You don’t want them to think you as a fuck-up.
Twenty or 30 years ago, people were getting married a lot younger, popping out kiddies before they were legal to drink, and staying in jobs until they received commemorative plaques (my Grandad has one- it’s cute).
Back then people stuck with things, they sucked it up, they didn’t have as many options as we have today. Now, if we don’t like something, we can change it. We can tune out needless noise, we can create our own thing. But there are two things stopping you from doing that: fear and a desperate need for approval.
We seek approval of the gold-star variety daily, even if it makes us sad and miserable. We ache for some type of validation.
Well, the journey to finding out what makes you happy ain’t gonna be paved with gold, babe.
If you are plugging away, even though you know the time for you to leave was three yesterday’s ago, you are hurting yourself. If you are sticking around out of a sense of obligation that is built on tired, old society rules, you are really hurting yourself.
I spent months hurting myself because I was too afraid to admit out loud that I was miserable. On the outside it looked like I had it going on. But I was dying a little each day, because I wasn’t living up to my potential.
The company can find another (insert your job title here). Hell, they can probably find someone who is more efficient than you. There may be someone out there who gets a real kick out of making sure plenty of milk is in the fridge for the coffee-freak execs.
You are replaceable, and that is totally okay because if you are feeling like you want to break-out (be it work-related or a boyfriend gone bad), then it means that your unique talents can best be used somewhere else.
I know you are talented in all kinds of crazy wonderful ways, but those things will waste away if you aren’t challenging yourself to find (or create) a position that really speaks to who you are as a person, and the ways you want to share your gifts with the world.
Allow yourself to be replaced in situations that are not deserving of you. Anything less cheapens your truth.
Think about it.
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